Also ask friends. You might be surprised. I had known my neighbor Marty and her family for more than ten years. Her daughter took care of our dogs when we left town. We chatted when we met on the street. One day I attended a lecture in Spanish and was surprised to see Marty there. “You speak Spanish?” I asked. “Yes. I used to teach high school Spanish.” Now I ask every new acquaintance. Once I asked everyone at a golf cocktail party and found two people.